It is interesting to me that we are effected so dramatically by our background, media and social restraints that a women's sexuality, sensuality is still misunderstood. Now I'm not one to watch 60 minutes as a real source of educated and informed opinion, but forgetting to turn the channel meant that in the background I could hear Bettina Arndt speaking about sex and relationships.

Whether the interview was manipulated to fit into the target market for this program or not, I am continually flabbergasted by this perception that women don't have the same drive for sex as men. Maybe its purely wording that annoys me about this statement, or maybe it's the simplicity of this point of view.

Let me put it like this women to me have just as much sex drive as men, it is the approach that is lacking. It is knowledge that is lacking not drive. Oh and importantly freedom and perception. It is time that the comments made by sex perts like Bettina Arndt's were counter acted by proper research that doesn't just start with the tabloids or basic science.

I know that the mind is a powerful tool and most important for women and sex. It is interesting how Internet dating and other adult dating sites are booming. Why? because when you take away the traditional superficial level of intimacy people naturally need to refine their approach.
It can take some practice and avoidance of your basic trash pervert, but as in life patience is important you start to determine subtleties. For some of us this is easier in the beginning.
Mind you the same warnings apply to online dating and chat as it might at a bar. If you ever agree to meet someone always let a close friend or family member know,. Have your cell phone close, but these are just precautions.

Anyway getting back to subtleties, texting or talking on forums can lead to a creative mind. You can also remain completely anonymous, but warning if you are not single playing around can lead to dangerous liaisons . You are better off involving your partner then keeping it seperate.
This is how my point about women and the mind come in. I love the mind it is one of the most important and powerful sexual tools you can have. It's not how big or small it's how you present it.

To be continued.....tomorrow

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